Nervous System Regulation in Pregnancy and Post Natal

Dear Ones,

I have reflecting on this as I have just become a Grammy for the first time, and sharing my daughter’s pregnancy, delivery and early days at home with her new son.  I was heartened by the encouragement of skin to skin contact from the nurses, with a message of “bringing moms and babies back together”.   A much-needed change for the future of our society, a coming back to recognizing how necessary nurturing babies is, and the vital importance of motherhood (fatherhood).

Human babies are very vulnerable and totally dependent on mom’s or dad’s constant tending to their cries, diaper changes, feeding, and love.  These early days and months of being in close contact with our caregivers sets the foundation for life, our experience of the world as being either safe or dangerous, and creating healthy attachment bonds.

I know from my family history, my own mother’s unexpected pregnancy, at the age of 19, in the early 1960’s, and how that affected her nervous system.  There was shock, judgment, and rejection she experienced from her family, and the subsequent stress of needing to get married quickly to legitimize the pregnancy.   So right from my conception I was exposed to her shame, fear, uncertainty, and her lack of maturity as well.   As I look back on my life and my early struggles with anxiety, it is no wonder that I felt unsafe, as my mom did not have the nervous system capacity to regulate herself, let alone me.   As I have studied this work and experienced my own healing from it, I appreciate the preciousness of motherhood and the early days of being born on this beautiful planet.

I will invite all the pregnant women, and new mothers, to ponder this for themselves and their precious little ones. To be a safe haven for your babe shapes their future, and how they interpret the world as being safe or dangerous.  This will affect their ability to thrive, to be confident that no matter how far they reach, you would be there to catch them. There are no boundaries to how much you hold, pick up and sleep with your little ones, as you are building their early life experiences.


A profound and beautiful role, as there is such potential to make a difference in the life of a child, and therefore the future of the planet. Relish your role as a mother/caregiver, as it is the most precious one you will play.

This has led me to expand my offerings to include pregnant women and babies in my practice.  To support mother’s to be and their new infants to find nervous system regulation, resilience and adaptability in the shared experience of being a family.  I love the work that I do, and I hope that you will share this new offering to anyone who might be interested and/or need the support.

With warm appreciation,

Caroldean Jude

Somatic Trauma Therapist

Somatic Experiencing Practitioner

Transforming Touch Practitioner

Internal Family Systems Therapist