Dear Friends,
I am seeing this lately in a few social media posts that resilience is being seen as being “touch” or a proof of “strength.” This a falsehood as resilience is the inner capacity to weather storms, not fight against them.
Dr. Peter Levine (developer of Somatic Experiencing) once said: “I do not work with trauma, I work with resilience.” As a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, I continue his work through helping people to uncover, expand their resilience, and begin to regulate their nervous systems.
Everyone’s capacity for resilience is built (in part) from birth, with the aide of a loving caregiver. From 0 – 6 months nervous system regulation is being provided by a caregiver as your NS has not matured yet. If loving care is not received, the framework of resilience can possibly have a wobbly base. So adversities that happen in life might feel in your body as “bigger”, like putting rocks on top of a table with loose legs. These base however, can be repaired, building capacity to be with the pain instead of the pattern of “buck up and soldier on” and/or “I’m fine.”
You are more resilient than you think, as proved with your survival from whatever trauma storm you have faced. Your resilience just needs to be rediscovered and nurtured, possibly for the first time. You have the innate ability to heal your mind, body and spirit from trauma, and live with rediscovered vitality. Of this I am sure.
Please contact me for a free 20 minute consultation to see how Somatic Experiencing and Internal Family Systems can help you in rebuilding your resilience.
With gentle warmness,
Caroldean Jude,
Somatic Experiencing Practitioner
Internal Family Systems Practitioner
Trauma Informed Yoga Teacher