Dear Friends,
The measuring of your painful experiences to another’s and deeming it not as “bad” is a form of self-rejection. This comparison and negating of your history are a reinforcing of being not enough to have your pain acknowledged as important. Self-judgment squashes your life energy and keeps you in a stagnant pattern that thwarts your growth and maturity. There is always going to be someone that has suffered more, lost more, was injured more than you, and this does not discount the affect that your life’s challenges have had on your mind, body, and spirit.
Taking stock of and in the recognizing how you are occurring for yourself, that the seeds of healing can be sown. It takes a lot of effort to be in the energy of self-rejection, and I invite you to be curious about these old ways of living. Try to notice how touching briefly into, instead of negating old wounds, feels like in your body. What would be possible in your life if you were to repurpose that energy towards self-love and healing?
Starting to treat yourself with more kindness and understanding will change your beliefs, affect your choices and will build your self-agency. I know that you deserve more love, joy and vitality in your life, and what has happened does not have to colour your future. Turn towards yourself and your past experiences, as it has made you who you are – a beautifully resilient human being. Share this new love generously.
Have a wonderful holiday season, slow down, enjoy more and breath deeper, your nervous system will thank you!
Please feel free to contact me for more information on how Somatic Experiencing and Internal Family Systems can help you in your healing process.
Yours in love and light,
Caroldean Jude, SEP